Have you met Ted? He’s one a character on, How I Met Your Mother. The show follows Ted Mosby as he tells his children the story of how he met their mom. For years we’ve seen women come and go within his story, but with the show ending tonight we’ll finally see the moment when Ted meets his future wife.
Like Ted we’ve encountered different personalities as we navigate our way to a meaningful relationship. What matters is that during this process we grow from it. So these are a few lessons that I’ve learned from How I Met Your Mother.
Right On Paper Doesn’t Mean Right for You
During the show Ted fell for his tattoo removal doctor, Stella, who came with a complicated past which included being a single mom by her high school sweetheart. Their romance/engagement made it seem like we finally found the mother; however hours before their wedding Stella ran back to her high school sweetheart.
While Stella seemed the most compatible for Ted, her baggage made it where they could never be together. Stella later told Ted that she was always in love with her ex and that he never left her heart. The lesson here is that we all come with baggage from our past, but the determining factor comes down to if that baggage is still open or closed.
Some People Don’t Know Themselves
Once Ted became a college professor, he briefly dated a student by the name of Cindy. She was a nice and smart, but the thing about her was that she was still discovering herself. After they broke up Ted tells his future kids that a several months later Cindy finds the kind of love she was searching for. Like Cindy you have to know who you are before you get involved with some. People have to take time to discover their wants and needs, after that they can look for that in someone else.
Be on the Same Page
Victoria is someone that Ted dated in the beginning and towards the end of the show. She had the same romantic ideals and out of everyone she seemed the most ready to settle down and start her future. The problem with the two of them was two-fold, first Victoria was jealous of his friendship with Robin and second Ted wasn’t serious about his relationship with her.
People Can’t Be Changed
She was the first girl that Ted fell for when he started looking for his future wife. An while they dated off and on throughout the show, things were never right because they had different goals concerning what the future. Ted tried to get Robin to change her mind, but they were never in the same place.
The most significant lesson to know when dating is that people can’t be changed. A bad boy can’t be turned into a good caring guy, someone that doesn’t want to get married will not one day want to, and someone that doesn’t like kids will not have a change of heart. If your dating someone and your goals or ideas for the future don’t match then you can’t make someone change them.
The Right One Is Out There- The Mother
We don’t know much about the relationship between the mother and Ted. However, we do know that they fit well together because their goals are aligned, they know who they are, and they have a great amount of love and respect for each other.
The thing is that after years of searching and sometimes getting discouraged Ted never gave up on finding his wife. The biggest lesson we can take away is that like the mother and Ted love is always around the corner. So we can’t give up because of who we date in the mean time, remember that fate will bring you together at any given moment.