The last time I wrote about my dad it was about how he influence me, but this time I felt that it’s important to share something else I learned from him. Not many women can say that they had a father teach them about relationships, but I was lucky to have that example with my mom and dad and with my grandparents. I’m happy to say that all three couples have been married for thirty or more years.
From my dad and grandfathers I see how men are supposed to treat a women with his verbal and nonverbal actions. These lessons have stayed with me as I’ve started dating, and I want to share them with you.
Men Treat Women with Respect:
I admire how my dad and grandfathers open doors and pull or the chairs for my mom and grandmothers, it’s such a beautiful thing to watch them do this for the women they love. They taught me that men show their respect for women through both their actions and words. A man does not call a woman outside of her name, put his hands on her, or treat her like anything less than a prize. He is also courteous to her by taking care of her and ensuring her safe when they are together, because a man who respects you will also protect you.
A Man Knows About Values and Ambitions:
When my dad tells the story about dating my mom he always mentions how he showed her that he valued family and had career ambitions. Both sides of my extended family are very close, so I’ve learned that if I start to seriously date someone they will have to understand and be able to deal with a tight-knit family. My dad also taught me that dating a man with goals is important because if I’m aiming high, I need someone else who is going to be there with me.
Always Let a Woman Know That She Is Beautiful:
One thing that my dad does is whenever we go out somewhere he tell my mom and I that we look great. This always makes me feel good before I walk out the door and face the world. This taught me that I should expect for a man to see that I’m beautiful inside and out. I’m more than just a pretty face, I’m very smart and have a big heart so they should notice that because my dad does and he tells me so everyday.