Many times a person will talk about how they want to be in love and find that special someone. They will talk about, search for it, and find themselves not getting everything they hoped for. That when people start to question if love will ever find them. However the real question is, are you ready for love?
A few times in previous post I’ve mentioned my past self-esteem issues, and when I was in that place I knew that I couldn’t see myself in a relationship. I knew that I didn’t have the type of relationship with myself that I needed, and I couldn’t be with someone while I was in the place. Once I was able to love myself, I had confidence, and understood what being in a relationship meant that when I felt ready to date.
From there I’ve dated some nice guys, I’ve been in and out of love, but most importantly I’ve been in the right place mentally and emotionally in all of them. For one to be ready for love they have to first love themselves, know they’re worthy to be loved, and not settle for anything less than what you’re worth.
When one is dating and developing those interactions into a relationship work is going to be required to see if things evolve into a loving relationship. That alone takes time, and if a person enters into a companionship not knowing if they’re ready then that adds more work, and can cause problems. Ultimately, one has to decide if they want to spend the time chasing after love or getting ready for it.
That’s a question I asked myself all the time. Will I be ready when love comes for me? Most times I think “yes! God yes!” but then I let the gitters set in and I get scared.
I’m at the point where I love me…and I’m wanna be in love. Right now, I’m ready!! Not gitters here!!!
Good Post!
I’m so happy to hear that and you made a great point. We have to love ourselves before we go out and try to find love in others. Like you mentioned we may have gitters about it all but we have to see what those gitters are about. If it’s nervousness about what’s to come that’s one thing, but if it’s uncertainty about oneself then something to look into.
Thank you for the comment and support!
This is a great post. I agree with everything you said. It’s all about one’s personal state of mind. If that isn’t intact, then it’s not likely that is the right time for love or a relationship. Patience is something that many of us need to learn how to exercise. A lot of people have a ‘I want it NOW!’ mentality and that isn’t always a good thing.
Thank you! So glad to hear that you liked it and I love your insight.