For many couples the need to fast forward through some of the necessary steps to develop a relationship looks tempting when things are going well. A person feels like things are right and that it’s time to take the next step, such as moving in together. While it seems right, can moving in together fill the void of learning about a person.
My good girlfriend is in a fast-pace relationship where she met a guy and in a short period of time they moved in together. Everything started out nice, but now that they are comfortable in their home she’s discovering a lot about him. For instance he leaves the bathroom nasty, he doesn’t pick up around the house, and his friends who like to visit all the time are the same way.
Understandably his mess has started to bother her and she’s tired of picking up after him. Moving in together is a big step no matter what stage of the relationship one is in. Both people have to get accustomed to the other’s living habits. However, spending some time together and getting to know a person can give some insight into how that person lives, thinks, and behaves.
While it seems like there is no need to date a person and get to know them, doing those things helps couples move to the next step. Sometimes it’s better to go in a relationship knowing what to expect instead of letting things happen on their own.