I want to start by stating that this post comes from my observations because one thing that I sometimes do is people watch. I’ve noticed that young women dress and act out in public in order to fit in and feel good about themselves. The teenagers that I saw were all wearing clothes that barely fit them and reveal too much. Oddly enough, their outfits resembled much of what we see reality stars and pop singers wearing on TV, videos, and magazines.
I really found it interesting the nonverbal actions of all the girls; they tug on their clothes, look around to see if anyone is looking, and seemed very self-conscious. This would happen mostly when they interacted with another group of girls, were approached by boys, or used profanity. Even though my example has involved teenagers, we as young adults do the same thing, we are just older.
My wish would be that women everywhere, especially young minority women would see that their beauty doesn’t lie in material things or in impersonating TV characters. It comes from within and being genuine to who you really are, not what the masses want you to be. Instead of dwelling on who everyone wants us to be or living up to what’s “in” we should see how trivial that is and focus on what makes us special and know without a doubt that you are one of a kind.
I’ve learned that once you harness the beauty that’s inside and come to understand it, then it shows on the outside. It appears in the way you walk, talk, smile, dress for the world to see. So I wish that women everywhere would see that, and say to themselves everyday, “You are beautiful, smart, and powerful and there is only one you.”