Recently a friend of mine reminded me of a life lesson that I seem to forget very often. He helped me to remember that life doesn’t have to be rushed all the time and that I should enjoy the whole experience of what I’m going through. So instead of trying to fast forward our careers, relationships, or even a period of time we are in, we need to take time to enjoy the process.
I remember one of my college professors saying to me that we live in a microwave society. We want everything to come right away in sixty seconds or less, and we have applied this mindset to our everyday lives. Have you ever sent a text and not even five minutes later found yourself annoyed that the other person hasn’t responded back. Sadly, I do it all the time. We want things to work according to our timetable and I know that in my case my level of patience has gone down because of it.
The thing that I’ve come to realize, especially lately is that everything happens in due time. Nothing can be rushed because of our personal interest or we want it to come at this time and in this way. We have to make a point of enjoying the time it takes to get there. We cant except to go from working in the mail room to running the company after a months worth of work. It takes time and we can’t resenting that factor of life.
I was telling one of my girlfriends the other day that I’m looking forward to the day when I have my own family. As someone who’s re-entering the dating world, I’m finding that I’m over the whole process of dating. I’ve never been able to casually date or deal with the feelings and emotions that go with it. So a big part of me wants to fast forward through this part of my life and get to the point where I have my family.
The only problem with that scenario is that I would miss all the great memories that come with meeting my future husband, going out on dates or vacations, getting engaged, getting married, and so on. So as much as I want to get to that point it’s not worth missing what would happen between now and then. So as much as it pains me to live in the now and embrace this moment I’m taking my friend’s advice and enjoying the ride instead of focusing on the destination.