Have you ever felt like the weight of the world was on your shoulders? Yesterday the call to be Superwoman became too much. I try to do it all and wear all my hats with class and poise. Usually I can handle it, my background in writing with a deadline had helped me thrive under pressure. However, on days when the force becomes too much it seems like everything falls apart.
So now I’m left wondering how am I or we as women supposed to wear the title of Superwoman? I am only one person and there’s only so many hours in the day. Plus, (and I don’t know if this applies to you) I have moments when I have my own agenda or want me time. So how do we take on the world, keep our corner of the world in order, and be true to ourselves?
The Superwoman Persona
The reason I wanted to write this is because I feel one thing that is lacking in our world is honesty. As I said I look like I have it together on the outside, but behind closed doors I struggle with being me. I second guess myself constantly, wonder if I’ve doing enough, and consider throwing in the towel. It’s a constant battle that we face every day to be at our best and manage.
Our lives consist of playing multiple roles and sometimes that has to happen simultaneously. We’re expected (either by ourselves or others) to do it all without breaking a sweat. Let me be the first to say that it’s unrealistic! I’ve been trying for over 20 years to have it all together, and I’m just as lost as the day I started.
When I look at my responsibilities and compare it to my friends who are moms (especially the single moms) and marvel in wonder. Really and truly I salute you. With my multiple jobs and tight-knit family sometimes it feels like I’m on the verge of a nervous breakdown. So I’ve had to take a hard look at myself and my schedule and decide to make some changes.
Restoring Our Strength
One of the things that’s helps me manage my responsibilities is giving my cares to the Lord. I have to remind myself that God didn’t give me this life to be stressed and worn out. He wants me to enjoy it and place my worries at his feet. Plus, when we depend on the Lord He renews our strength.
Next, I’ve learning to be my own cheerleader instead of my own worst critic. It’s okay to have high expectations of ourselves and want to handle everything, we have to be realistic. Instead of beating ourselves up over what’s not done, let’s be thankful for what we did accomplish. Plus, it’s important to make time for ourselves in our busy schedule.
Lastly, I will recommend (and I’m still working on) is saying no. This advice comes from a good friend who told me just because you can do it doesn’t mean you should. It’s okay to tell people we can’t do something or be somewhere, and we shouldn’t feel guilty. It’s a part of being realistic and not stretching ourselves too thin.
While it’s not always easy being superwoman, I want to encourage you to wear the title proudly. It may not seem like it but you’re doing more than you know and despite the chaos you can handle it. Remember that you have the power to handle what’s on your plate. The source of your Superwoman strength starts with taking care of you.