My mind has been replaying a conversation that I had with my guy friend about how males separate from his parents to become a man. He talked about how men have to set boundaries, be self-sufficient, and find a new way to relate to our parents as part of the process. From listening to him explain a guy’s journey, I’ve started to see how that should be the way women proceed as well.
When I went off to college I really started to be independent since I had an opportunity to stand on my own. I was away at school and all I had was myself, I developed my own life and took care of things from that point forward which separated me from my parents. They understood why it had to be that way, but it was hard to start taking on that different role in my life.
It’s not easy take hold of our lives and have our parents stop taking care of us and treat us like adults, but it’s apart of growing up. We can’t continue to have the same relationship we’ve had with our family since childhood, that dynamic has to change. As women we have to see how being independent and setting boundaries with our family shows them our strength.
The other day my family told me that they really admire how I’ve been able to take care of myself for the past several years; they’ve seen the values they’ve taught me work in how I live my life. That’s what taking that leap into adulthood is meant to do, it illustrates through your actions that you can handle it.