There is no doubt in my mind that we are in the information age. If you don’t believe me, simply acknowledge the fact that all you have to do to find the answer to a question is Google it – a term that didn’t come into existence until 2006. Isn’t that crazy? It’s one of the many perks of being millennial. Nevertheless, despite the convenience of the accessibility we have grown accustom to, we as women have become less content with our lot in life.
With the abundance of media and reality TV shows today, we compare and try to one-up each other. We have become obsessed with ‘keeping up with the Jones’ and portraying the perfect life for all to see. It’s like a plague – a disease that spreads faster than a cure can be found. It is, undeniably, the new version of the rat race.
We have all heard (or seen) the many popular quotes about comparison. Whether it is Theodore Roosevelt’s “Comparison is the thief of joy” quote, or the new mantra “Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20,” we are very aware of the fact that this is unhealthy. Nevertheless, when we are frustrated with our lives, or a situation does not go our way, one of they key reasons we are upset can be traced back to a case of how-our-life-does-not-match-theirs. And if that is not your cup of tea, it is highly possible that to make yourself feel better about an accomplishment, outfit or [insert your preference here], you try to compare yourself to someone who is in a worse disposition than you. Am I telling the truth?
Albeit a familiar term with a negative connotation in society today, comparison is truly an educational technique. It was instilled in us by our teachers – compare this book to that book, compare this character to that character. The idea was pretty simple – to find the similarities and difference between two or more things. The end result was to simply assess the two things so you could fully appreciate either’s strengths and weaknesses. Not so today. Today, millennials use comparison as a measuring stick with the question ‘Who’s better than the other?’ at the forefront of their mind. Therefore creating a form of a tool that has saturated our lives, and leads to guilt and the false pursuit of perfectionism.
So…how do we fix this? How do we show ourselves the love we deserve, and at the same time, love our fellow woman?
The answer is not the same old “Women need to stop comparing themselves to each other” speech. I mean, let’s face it. We are humans and we are going to do it regardless. However, there is hope. The cure is simply to practice comparison healthily. Just be real! Vow to be honest with yourself and with the women around you. Celebrate the small victories you have. Celebrate the bigger ones. Be proud of you! Yes you may wish your hair was as curly like hers, or wish your butt was as big as Nicki Minaj’s. Maybe you want to be as popular as the chic in your study group or as talented as your friend on the basketball team. Why waste time wishing you were someone else? Accept yourself. Love yourself. And remember, we are each special but we are not better than any of the rest.