Waiting, waiting and still waiting on a card, flowers or even candy but nothing has come for me. Another day of love wasted on spending time by myself. Couples surround me like vouchers picking me apart scrutinizing the idea of my singleness. Is being single a crime? Sometimes in our traditional society it feels this way. Why is being single looked at as a dis-ease? Not disease but a dis-ease meaning people who look uneasy when you reply, “I am single.”
Valentine’s Day is only for couples so why should single people even focus on this holiday of love? We often do not feel the love because people are immersed in wondering what their husband or significant other will buy them. The holiday is filled with the greed of getting instead of giving. I do not believe Cupid intended for single people to feel left out. Love is a universal language in life so love should be for the majority not the minority. In my journey of being single I have learned that this was the best moment of my life. It is the avant garde of life!
Even though, last year I said goodbye to my single lifestyle I still believe it is important to love yourself wholeheartedly. Just in case, my boyfriend forget the box of candy I realize our love episodes are on DVR in my mind because I always replay the times he told me how much he loves me without a holiday. Valentine’s Day is a special time to embrace the one you love but if you are single I urge you to love yourself. Love can’t search through your mailbox until it believes you have found your own self-worth. I spent three years on a journey I called my “authentic” journey; this was time I spent loving myself, facing my issues and conquering life.
When you are single you should have the time of your life making plans to see the world, girlfriend getaways and quiet time with you. If you do not love you no one else will can. When you are whole then love will cross your path unexpectedly. Love found me in great contentment. I had no room for a pity party or woe as me attitude because I was discovering my true self. As time pass I became okay with being single then that is when love made a grand appearance in my life-unexpectedly!
So I encourage, all single people to breathe easily and exhale slowly love is a four letter word that starts with you. You do not have to wait until February 14th to start your love evolution but you can begin it now. Love has many benefits and perks yet if you are not willing to take the journey you will miss out on its destination. So, instead of waiting to exhale with your box of tissue love yourself unconditionally.
Stylicia Bowden| www.theinspirationalcorner.net |@releasethepen