Is it possible to compare your life to someone who’s better off and be grateful? Being in your twenties when you have pictures, statuses, and tweets everywhere showing that everyone is living life and making moves can be daunting. It can either make you feel like your behind, not doing enough, or on the wrong path on together. The point is that now of days it’s easy to mentally, physically, and emotionally get to a place you may feel as though your life is inadequate; but the truth is that comparing doesn’t paint a realistic picture.
Lately I’ve been focusing on being more grateful for what I have currently going for me compared to what I wish was there. My mind wonders very easily and I’ve noticed that my thoughts have been about what I don’t have and that I wish I was living to another life. When I was in high school I made a life plan of everything that I wanted to do, and I noticed that the things that I had for my personal life can’t be checked off. I thought that by now I would be married, have a cute little dog, and maybe about to have a kid by now. Instead I’m in the middle of a major shift in my life where a lot seems to be changing at one time.
I was in this hole of self-pity when I heard a message about being grateful for where you are and what you have right now. To summarize what was said, basically we all have a journey that we are meant to travel and highlights (i.e.- graduation, marriage, kids, etc.) along the way. Some of us will reach those earlier than others, but life is not a race of who can get somewhere faster. So we can’t get discouraged about where other people when their journey doesn’t reflect our current state.
Something that we have to remember is that other people’s pictures, statuses, and tweets don’t portray their everyday life but just a moment of it. No one post a picture of when they get robbed or when they fight with their significant other. We all show the good and funny moments in our lives. So when we’re down and wishing that we were so-and-so living their life and doing whatever they do we have to recognize that what we see is just a moment. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
Having new things, people, money, or whatever else doesn’t provide permanent joy or happiness. The newness fades and new issues arise and then we are right were we started, unhappy and wanting something else. It’s not always easy to see, I struggle with it especially when times are hard, but know that no matter whats going on you have something to be grateful for. So take a moment not only to enjoy but respect the journey that you’re on because it’s your life and you shouldn’t let your perception keep you from being grateful.