We all have our quirks right? As I’ve mentioned before my quirk is planning things out. I like making list and crossing things off so I can see my progress. Writing it all out makes me feel as though I’m in control and have it all together. It’s just that I’ve started to think that my love for planning is leaving little room for life to intervene.
Looking back, writing out my life and believing that everything will play out exactly as I planned seems naive in a way. I can see Jesus sitting up there saying, “If she only knew what I have planned.” While a few of the things that I planned out do happen as I hoped, many things didn’t and I’m learning to go along with uncertainty.
So the big question is how does a planner and someone who likes to be in control find joy in the unknown and unexpected journeys that like brings our way? I’m still learning how to do it, but here’s a few things I’ve found that have helped me.
Remove Your Plan- You will never be able to find joy in whatever life throws your way if you are clinging to your expectations. I’ve learned since making my life plan that life cannot be planned out to a detail. If you look for it to be the way you planned then you’ll end up disappointed.
Lose Control- When you’re faced with a situation where things are out of your control, most controlling people try to fix it so they can regain it. The thing is when you do that you hurt yourself because you are not letting life naturally happen. You have to find a way to be comfortable letting go of control.
Change Your Mindset- The most challenging thing to deal with when life throws something you way is your thoughts. It’s easy to let them get the best of you and spiral into a place of fear and anxiety. Find a way to block out those thoughts with a mantra or putting a rubber band on your wrist so you can refocus your mind to not look at the unknown in a negative way but as a positive.
Enjoy the Moment- The best thing I’ve learned is that there’s beauty in letting go and not having everything planned out. You get to have adventures and opportunities that you would with a plan and expectations. Take time to enjoy life, find joy in the unexpected, and embrace all that comes your way.