In the last several years of my life I realized how much I have tried to force things to happen. Every time I would try to force love, friendships and other things in my life it would never work. I understand coercing things only makes life miserable and ultimately drive people away from you. I got frustrated with my controlling nature and knew I needed to make some major changes in my life. Its funny God has a great way of showing you who is really in control of your life. Every time something went against my plans I would have an adult temper tantrum. The more I fought the flow of life the more I became unfulfilled.
Many people do not recognize how damaging it is to be a controlling person. When you have a controlling nature you are a bully. Bullies are mean, miserable, insecure and have no friends. It was a waste of time bullying my way through life because life has a flow of its own. God is the creator of life which means you have no control over the way life flows. No matter how much you plan in life it has a way of bringing about unexpected circumstances. Once I began to confront the root of my controlling nature I became in tune with what caused this behavior.
After my two year old daughter died in 2007 I felt like my life was out of control so out of fear I made a decision to control every arena of my life. I psychologically thought if I controlled my life I would never have to endure pain again because I had it all under control. In short, I became my own deity. Of course, all of this back fired on me years later which lead me to evaluate my behavior.
After many years of self-development and spiritual improvement I am learning life is fun when you let it flow effortlessly. I am not suggesting you do not make goals, plans or have structure for your life but when those plans go south have the courage to be flexible. Flexibility is essential in the game of life. I decided to live an effortless life by allowing myself to go through the process of life. I no longer fight the process no matter how painful it may be I know nothing in life is permanent. In order to live an effortless life you have to be willing to adjust your sail. Below are five tips to help you start your journey to an effortless living:
Tips To Living An Effortless Life
Tip #1: Let Go, Let God. Although this saying is cliché it has a lot of truth and meaning to it literally. The more you let go of your life plan the more you make room for some fun plans God has for your life. It is less stress in your life when you let go!
Tip 2#: Be Flexible. You can plan your entire life for the next five years but guess what nothing will go as planned. There will always be something interrupting your plans. Instead of allowing the interruptions to upset you allow them to help you become more open-minded.
Tip 3#: Let It Be. These are three powerful words so instead of fighting a mental, emotional, physical and spiritual battle that will leave you exhausted focus your energy on the important things in life. Sometimes you have to let situations run their own course. Step back, process and let it play out!
Tip #4: Be at peace. Peace will keep you sane in the insane moments. Do not let outside forces disturb your peace. Peace is an option so choose it every time life throws challenges your way.
Tip#5: Have fun. Do not let life get the best of you make it an adventure. Things will happen in life but spend more time laughing, playing and enjoying all that it has to offer.
By: Stylicia Bowden | www.styliciabowden.com