I have been single for a few years. I am actually cool with it! The last serious relationship that I was in was about 2 years ago. He wanted too much too soon. I, well, was not ready for what he wanted so quickly. Fast forward to living single. The best part of being single is LIVING, LEARNING, LOVING, HEALING AND GROWTH. This is the best part to me because it allowed me to discover things about myself that I didn’t know. It allowed me to make some choice that I probably wouldn’t have made if I had another person filling space, taking time and wanting me to fulfill their requirements, needs and desires…..all the while ignoring myself.
There is a difference in being single and living single. Being single is a state, title and sometimes a death sentence. Living single is ACTION! You are getting out there doing things. You are trying things that you have always wanted to try. Doing things that you may have wanted to do but because you were so wrapped up in a relationship that you didn’t have the time to pursue. This is time to heal from the break up, not mope, sulk or have a pity party. Learn from the relationship that you are no longer in. What was good or bad? What did you like or not like.
The most important part of LIVING single is learning how to love yourself. Yeah, love yourself girl. That is what I had to learn. I always thought that I was loving myself but I wasn’t. Every time I said no but really wanted to say YES and vice versa. Every moment I spend pleasing someone else instead pleasing myself. Those moments I was so unhappy, being the person that I thought my mate wanted me to be. All that time I spent being committed to someone, I didn’t even have the tenacity or well with all to commit to who I was. Instead, I just played the role….you know, the happy relationship zombie.
So, as “the month of LOVE” comes to an end, I hope that you bought yourself chocolates, flowers and tokens of love. February is not the only month to give and receive love! ! Love is in the air EVERY DAY! Take the time to love yourself just a little bit more every day. Embrace the state of being single then enjoy that ACTIONS of LIVING single. Give love and life then watch it return to you. Don’t hate the fact that you don’t have a special someone. Live knowing that you are so special that when you find your mate, they will appreciate, love, honor, respect and cherish ALL that living single has given you.