The ongoing conversation amongst my friends lately is about how people do what they want to do. Every situation regardless if it’s a relationships, life choices, or work related falls into one of two categories; it’s either a priority or an option. So when it comes down to us being placed into one of these categories should we be accepting or demand more?
My friend has been talking to a guy for a while now and lately they’ve been having some issues regarding option versus priority. In the beginning things were going well. Then things just stopped, and she would go weeks without hearing from him. She would text and he wouldn’t respond back or she would get a short reply compared to the long responses that she was use to.
My other friend has been venting to me about her new event planning business that she started with her friend. Right now they’ve been working with a client for months on getting a conference. My friend has a strong work ethic and has been putting her time and energy into this, but her business partner has been more focused on her personal life than the event. Recently they had a meeting with their client where the business partner made several mistakes and they almost lost the client’s business.
My friend that’s in a relationship spoke to her boyfriend about their problem and his response was that he’s been busy and didn’t really want to talk about it. While my other friend said that after what happened at their meeting she pulled her business partner aside to see what’s going on and why she hasn’t been committed to the project. Her business partner’s response came off as a bunch of excuses and that she wasn’t interested in the work but the recognition.
The thing that I’ve learned from both conversations is that we have very little control over what other people do. People will do what they want to do and when they want to do it. It’s up to us to make the decision to go along with it or make a change.
Some great advice that I’ve received this year is that we have control over how we allow others treat us and what emotions we feel. So we must use or voices to express what is acceptable and what we won’t allow. Otherwise we’re subjecting ourselves to the pain of silencing our feelings.