Do you see yourself as a queen? (I know this site is about discovering your inner Diva, but stick with me.) I’ve noticed that the way we see ourselves reflects the type behavior we accept from others. Are you accepting behavior that matches your queen status?
When you are confident in who you are then you only accept behaviors and people who fit that mold. However, too many women don’t know who they are or truly appreciate themselves. So they seek their identities in relationships to fill or distract themselves from their void.
One of my friends from college has been with her boyfriend for a couple of years, and he’s always calling her outside of her name. The part that disappoints me is that she allows it and makes excuses for him. She’s strong, beautiful, and smart but compromises all of this because she’s doesn’t believe she deserves better.
Love Starts With You
To see yourself as a queen you have to start by getting to know who you are and loving that person. In order to get respect from others you have to respect yourself.
If you take anything away from this know that you deserve respect and to treated like a queen in your relationship. You are the child of a king, so your identity comes from Him alone. He fills your voids and is all that you need to survive. If you believe that you are all he’s called you to be then why would you accept anything that doesn’t match?
While scrolling through my Facebook feed the other night I came across a repost of this open letter by L. Flanders. I hope that this letter will be as inspirational to you as it was for me.
“You Are a Queen”
Today my wife and I were at T.J. Maxx finishing up on some last-minute shopping. Usually my wife and I walk into the store together. However today because of the cold I let her out at the door and park the car so she would not have to walk in the cold.
As I entered the store My Queen greeted me with an efficacious smile. After shopping and paying for the stuff, I went to get the car while she waited inside for me. While walking to the car I overheard a man of the ebony hue cussing at his wife or significant other? He left her in the car and went into the store. As I looked into her eyes from a distance I could see the anguish and humiliation in her eyes as the kids played in the back seat.
So I wanted to take this opportunity to encourage women abroad… You are TOO BEAUTIFUL for a man to use derogative language when talking to you. You are no a “B”, slut, nor a whore. YOU ARE A QUEEN!!! The way a man talks and the way he treats you should enhance your position of royalty. If he isn’t addressing you as a queen than he is not a king.
Only kings can address a queen. My sister you are royalty. The bible says you are virtuous and your price is far above rubies. Stop letting fools talk to you. Fools are for the king and queens entertainment. [They] are only good for laughing at not relationship nor marriage. If no one has ever addressed you properly, let me be the first. “Hello My Queen!” For you are a queen indeed…….
– L. Flanders