Never chase love, affection, or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having. -Unknown
I have a confession, I have chased love in the past and made a fool of myself in the process. I’ve gone out of my way to show a guy how smart, talented, and put together I am. All to prove that I’m the full package of beauty and brawns just to end up empty-handed and broken-hearted.
I see there’s no reason to chase love because it’s meant to find me. I’ve heard the stories of how my parents and grandparents met and how they got where they are now. Each story has the same thread, the guy put forth the effort to attract and impress the woman. My mom and grandmothers didn’t have to do a song or dance to get the guy.
Why are we going out of our way to impress guys when we are the prize that needs to be won? One of the biggest things I learned while on my break from dating is that the real purpose is to find a person who can help you reach your purpose. You know the value and worth you possess. Understand that those things make you unique and that any person looking to date is lucky to have you because of that.
Not long ago I was interested in this guy who I went out of my way to impress, but he wasn’t interest in my dreams and goals. He didn’t want to talk or hear about it, and would get irritated when I dedicated time to my work. So I minimized my parts of me in order to make him feel comfortable, instead of saying bye to him and celebrating who I was.
Why chase love when it should be chasing you down? You are worth someone making a fool of themselves to be with, so do act like you’re less than a prize.