Do you notice when you tell yourself a lie? It’s happens when a little voice inside says “you can’t do that,” or “do you really think that’s in your future?” That when all your doubts and fears begin so set and before you know it you’ve talked yourself out of doing what you desire to do. So why don’t we just go after what we want confidently instead of giving into these lies?
A couple of weeks ago I was talking to one of my coworkers who was telling me about a trip that she’s taking with her boyfriend to California. For a while we were talking about her trip and somehow the conversation turned to us talking about how I’m single. Now, my coworker is one that believes that everyone should have a significant other in order to be happy; so she’s been on me about my dating life. So when I was telling her, like many times before, that nothing has changed in my dating life she asked me if I thought I would ever find someone.
Normally her comments don’t bother me, but for some reason I found myself thinking about her comment later that night, and then again a couple of days later. Next my thoughts turned into, “Will I always be alone?” “What if I don’t find anyone?” “Does that mean my dream of being married and having kids isn’t going to happen?” Before I knew I was thinking about a Plan B in case I never met my guy, married him, and had kids.
After a couple of days I knew that I needed to get out of my head and because my mind was circling around a comment from someone who barely knows me. In the matter of days I let what someone else said about my life almost become a truth and if I didn’t stop at some point I would have accepted it. I had to understand that my coworker and my current circumstances don’t determine my future, but my mindset does play a role and needs to be on what I want.
We have to be mindful of our thoughts because if we except the lies then what’s meant for us can’t get through. So what do you except the lies or what you are confident will be true?