Sunday I was going through some cds that I keep in my car and I came across a message by a motivational speaker who discussed how a person sees change. Further into the message he spoke about how our friends and inner circle influence what our lives are going to be like, which is something that I’ve discussed before in previous articles. The thing that I now realize from listening to his speech is that sometimes while we may not want certain friends to leave our lives they are only meant to be there for a season.
Something that I haven’t shared in a post yet is that I went through a breakup last year. I was in this particular relationship for many years and during that time we developed mutual friends. However, after everything ended many of those friends left and I never heard from them again. It made me upset and I didn’t understand it at first, but over time I was able to deal with it. The same message I listened to recently I heard for the first time when this was all happening and it helped me see that not everyone is meant to be there forever.
I love all of my friends and I would be lying if I said that I don’t like to see people come and go in my life. The ones that are gone I do have moments where I miss them, but through this process new people have come into my life; along with some that I forgot where there. We can’t stay in a place that’s full of disappointment, sadness, and regret because no one can reside permanently. So I had to learn to stop focusing and what’s no longer in my life and be grateful for what is and what’s to come. Life doesn’t stop just because someone or something are no longer in the picture, so we have to keep pushing forward.
The part that stuck with me from the speaker’s message is that we have to embrace the changes that come during our journey and when people come and go. Our perspective should be that every area of life is like going through a door where some are wide and others are narrow. Everyone isn’t going to make it through each door. Some will get left behind, others will show up again later, and new people will show up. We can’t let it discourage us or get down about, but see these changes as growth.
Take hold of the seasons of change in your life and everything that they possess, because that’s what will take you to the next level of promise and hold new experiences. My season has given me a new outlook on who I am, where I want to go, and the types of people that I need to have in my life. Even though I didn’t want to embrace this change at first, I can now say that I’m happy with who it’s making me out to be.