As I get older and gain experience with dating, I start to see how goals within a relationship are important. When a couple has matching goals they learn more about one another and can work together towards those accomplishments. Without goals how would a couple know where they’re going?
My old roommate and her husband have been together since high school and I love to pick her brain about relationship stuff. One thing she’s always mentioning is how they are on the same page. The two of them have talked about what they want their lives to be, and they worked to make those goals into a plan they carry out together.
As newlyweds they are getting their first home-built, moving up in their careers, and getting accustomed to married life. If they hadn’t discussed their goals to see if they matched then they might not be where they are now. One of them may not have wanted to get married or a family, and those barriers can determine where a relationship goes and if it has a future.
When a relationship starts getting serious, a person usually wants to know where things are headed and if their view matches the other persons. By not having that discussion and seeing where everyone stands, one could be wasting their time. It’s better to have the conversation now instead of learning the options later on.