Change is something that one either chooses to accept or doesn’t, there’s no way around it. When it comes to love the same thing applies, the person has to decide to change themselves to be involved in a relationship or stay in their current world. As much as we want it to happen, we can’t make someone want to be with us.
I was dating this guy that I cared about a lot and I could see myself really falling for him. We had so much fun together and he was great to me but it always seemed like he was holding back. The thing was that he couldn’t love me like someone in a relationship is supposed to love a person. He gave as much as he could to our relationship, but it wasn’t all of him.
I understand that people have to ease into situations, but with him it was as though he purposely keeping a part of himself away from me. As time went on I started to see that he was never going to let me fully in and that wasn’t going to change. After talking about it we decided that it was best to go our separate ways.
Even though I wanted us to work out, being in a relationship takes an equal effort for it to last. He didn’t want to change or even try to so things didn’t progress. It taught me that a person can’t make someone want something they don’t because it’ has to be their decision to change and want it too.