How to Gain Confidence in Your Flaws

One of my favorite goes, “We live our lives with two faces, the one that we want the world to see and the one we hide.” When it comes to dating, we hide our part of ourself out of fear of rejection from the other person. So, if we’re hiding our parts of ourselves from those around us will they ever know who we really are?

One thing that I admired about my ex boyfriend was that he could tell the real me from the person that I pretended to be to the rest of the world. When I had to put my feelings aside to take care of a business he would point out that I wasn’t being the real Jennifer. He knew when I did that I was hiding my feelings or emotions about what was going on.

One night he told me that even though I don’t always show my emotional side, he liked seeing that side of me and hoped that I would eventually be comfortable showing that side of myself. I haven’t figured out why I hide certain parts of myself and my personality from others, I guess it’s my own fear of rejection. However, I know that having our flaws on display for everyone to see can be frightening, especially when you don’t know how others will react.

We don’t want our imperfections, short comings, or our baggage to be the reason they look at us differently. At some point though we have to put our fear aside and be who we are. We can’t always keep people at arms length, so those who have earned it deserve to see the real our beauty along with what we consider our flaws.

When we do this we can honestly see can’t accept our flaws without living off of assumptions. Otherwise, we will never know how they feel about us because can’t see the full picture. If your guy has seen you at your worst with all your flaws out in the open and he wasn’t phased, then you can rest knowing that he cares about you. Flaws and all.

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2 Responses to “How to Gain Confidence in Your Flaws”

  1. On August 1, 2012 at 12:12 pm C.Hayes responded with... #

    This is true….we do usually have 2 sides, but I think both is our true self. We are a complex design with many layers and the more we spend time with someone, the more those layers peel away.


    • On August 5, 2012 at 11:47 pm jenndiva responded with... #

      I couldn’t agree more. I know that I personally go into relationships and friendships with my guard up just because I don’t want to expose myself too soon. I have to make sure that I can trust the person and build help to letting down those walls.

      After writing this post I’ve been think about this topic and see that it’s all about being exposed. We only feel comfortable doing it in front of certain people and those we can trust. So that plays a big role in this.

      Thanks for your comment!

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