Love is perfect. Love is kind. Love is unconditional. Love is global. Love is free of discrimination. Love is accessible to all.
Love is one of the strongest things on this earth. Yet it is also one of the most misconstrued.
Love is mistaken for lust. Love is misinterpreted and abused. Love is used as an excuse to withhold information and necessities. Love is used a manipulative tool by some.
It’s a grim thing to see something so beautiful have such a dichotomy. It’s even worse to see how it has affected the millennial generation. Millennials tend to see love as either an accessory or an occurrence. If love happens, it has to compliment their life like a pair of shoes has to compliment an outfit. If love happens, it might be just be a one-time thing or magical moment, which requires no further action or commitment.
It’s all wrong. Love is not an event. Love is not convenient.
Frankly speaking, love is a gift. It appears in your life like a Christmas present – wrapped in beautiful paper with a bow on top. However, you have to rip the paper and remove the bow to get to the even more beautiful gift inside. And when you get to that, when you finally have that gift, you cherish it and it becomes a part of you – a part of your journey. That is a realistic manifestation of love.
Just like the new gift eventually loses its “new” appeal, love does the same. The butterflies in your stomach goes and reality sets in. As with any human interaction, there are growing pains – little jabs of irritation as you and your significant other grow together. But therein lies the beauty because in those moments you learn to love someone despite their flaws and how they may disappoint you. Instead you love the whole person. Little by little, you lose your self-centeredness and begin to understand the power of giving, the power of mercy and the power of faithfulness. That kindness and that grace is what define love and the fairy tale stories we crave.
Truth be told, the romance, flowers, dinners and other material things are just the tip of the iceberg. Love is deeper. Love is patient. Love is perseverance. Love is sacrifice. Love is forgiving. Above all, love takes work.