Last weekend I started reading Steve Harvey’s book “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” and one topic I found interesting was the concept that a man should be the provider. In book he writes that in a dating relationship we should expect our man to provide for us. So are we letting men do that or are we keeping them away from that role?
One of my friend’s worst dating stories is that she met a guy while she was off at college who asked her out. So on the evening of their date he picked her up and when they arrived at the ticket booth of the movie theater he bought his ticket and walked inside, leaving her to buy her own ticket and later her food. She feels that he should have paid since he was the one who invited her to go out.
I see how my friend’s side, but I also know that the rules for paying on a date are confusing and have all sorts of guidelines. Personally, I ‘go dutch’ on activities and meals because I don’t want a guy to assume that I can’t pay as well. While I see what Steve Harvey means about men being a provide, I also believe that some men want women to contribute monetarily to dates too.
The reason why Steve Harvey says that we should let men pay and be the provider is because it’s apart of the male instinct to provide and protect for the people he cares about. While we as women don’t want to hinder someone from achieving at their role, we also have to do what we are comfortable with. In the end all that matters are the people involved and how they feel.