Sometimes when a woman is involved with a guy she will look to him to play dual roles within their relationship. He will be a boyfriend, counselor, best friend, maintenance man, and on occasion even a substitute girlfriend. With all the roles that a mate has to juggle, is it fair to want him to be one of the girls?
A couple of months ago my good friends moved away with her boyfriend to a new city where she doesn’t know anyone. Since all she has there is her boyfriend and her job they spend a lot of time together and has put him in somewhat of a girlfriend role because she doesn’t have anyone else. Since doing that they have started to have problems with being together all the time and the pressure he’s been feeling.
A guy will never win trying to be everything that we need. He can’t relate to our problems or situations like another woman would, so we may not get the validation we are seeking from him. Plus, if we have our guy taking the place of our girls then they no longer have a role, and then there’s no purpose to that relationship.
While some may deny it, we need other women in our lives because having female companionship is key to our growth and communication. Women understand each other better than men do; and being a woman is role men can’t fill.