There are times when being in a relationship can be too much, especially when times are rough. Sometimes a little space can give a person time to find a way to make things better. However, should we be offended or hurt by someone wanting that space?
My friend and her high school sweetheart just broke up and since everything happened she hasn’t been herself. Her ex told her that he wants to take time away from the relationship so that he can get himself and his life in order. He recently got laid off; he’s dealing with student loans and bills, and is having to move home to make ends meet. So he feels that the time will give him a chance to get his life together, find out who he is, and what type of man he is suppose to be.
Since then she’s been blaming herself because she feels like she needs to do something to get things back to the way they were. The thing is that the best thing she can do is be supportive of him. In some cases people need space to find direction or their purpose and that’s hard to do while being with someone. The space isn’t to end the relationship; it’s really a way to make the people involved better.
Part of being in a relationship is compromising on what we want for the good of the other person and the relationship. Sometimes we have to put love on hold to take care of ourselves, and doing so can only make our relationship stronger.