I’m willing to admit that I am guilty of playing games when it comes to guys and relationships. I have done it all from trying to get attention, impressing them, and at one time buying gifts. Thankfully I’m more mature now, but we all have our way of attracting the opposite sex. In regards to attraction, at what point does playing games start to penalize us?
As I stated in the beginning I have done things to get guys attention before. There was this guy that I liked a lot when I was in high school. He was a die hard sports fan, so in an effort to talk to him I learned sports so we could have something to talk about. At first and we were talking and hanging out, then it just became dull. After a while I realized that we crossed the line into the friends zone, and that was it for us.
If I was real with myself and with him then I shouldn’t have pretended to know about sports to impress him. The person that I was should have been enough to get us together than playing the game. It wasn’t until I came to that realization that being myself and putting aside the games that I met someone great.
Playing the game of attraction has it’s fun moments, but at some point it stops being fun. When the games start to compromise the person then it affects the reality of the relationship, then there is not a foundation. The point of attraction is attract the person to who they are not who they want to be.